Do you know what you really want?


Have you ever been in the situation where you simply can’t make a decision about something? Perhaps you can’t decide if to give up your successful professional career to start your own business. Perhaps you can’t decide what business to start. Perhaps you already own your own business and can’t decide what steps to take next.

When we can’t make these kind of decisions, it’s usually because we don’t know what we really want.

That may sound obvious but when I say you don’t know what you really want, I mean you haven’t sat down to really think about the details of your ideal day, week, month or year.

And you don’t really know why you want it to look like that. You don’t know your ‘Big Why‘.

It’s very easy to let other people persuade you that your life should look a certain way. For instance, friends and family who think they have your best interests at heart may do an excellent job to convince you to stay in your regular, secure job, even though deep down you yearn for the freedom, autonomy and challenge of running your own show.

Experts and ‘gurus’ you follow can be equally as persuasive. Perhaps you are a coach who follows several of the leading industry coaches promoting a ‘lifestyle’ business. One that entails delivering coaching programs from glamorous locations all over the world.

But maybe you don’t actually want to travel to glamorous locations all over the world.

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And if you don’t that’s just fine.

Maybe your Big Why right now is to have the freedom to be able to spend as much time as you can at home with your children.

Maybe you own a small shop or work as consultant, trainer, therapist or coach in  your local community. The gurus and experts in your field tell you that you should move your business online. You’ll reach so many more more people, they say. But maybe you thrive off the personal interaction you have with your customers. The relationships you build. The daily conversations in person with customers who return time and again. Maybe moving your business to your home office and depriving yourself of this daily one-on-one contact with other human beings would be like starving yourself of air, food or water. 

Maybe your Big Why is to contribute to your local community in a meaningful way through your product or service.

We don’t all want the same thing. We are unique human beings with unique wants, needs and desires. 

How do you figure out what you really want?

To figure out what you really want try answering these questions:

1. Who do I want to spend my time with?

2. How much time do I want to spend with other people and how much time on my own?

3. Which environments make me feel good, enrich my life and give me joy, pleasure or peace.

4. Which activities do I enjoy doing?

5. If I could take the next 6 months off without having to worry about money, what would I spend my time doing?

6. What’s one thing I’d love to do but think is impossible?

7. What do I truly value? (e.g. freedom, autonomy, time with my family, time on my own, time in nature, being with other people, helping people, making a difference)

Answering these questions will help you figure out what you really want your life to look like and why. Once you know what you really want you can start designing your life to make it happen.

It’s your life.

Design it the way you want it to be.



As usual I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Do you know wht you really want? What does your ideal life look like? Does your business help you achieve your ideal lifestyle?